All of us have a norm. A sense of understanding or somewhat of an internal map that we follow. Knowingly and unknowingly. These norms, maps, scripts, and point of views are created by how we were raised, what we were shown and what we were not shown. We live these out and when life and God shows us something is wrong with what see we either cling to us run or we grow and hold on to God. Many of us don't want to grow or move forward because of the fear of changing from what we know. However, in order to be used by God and to live for God, our norms must change.